Looking Inward To Find Love
Looking Inward To Find Love
Finding a fulfilling romantic relationship is one of life’s greatest joys. With this special person, you can enjoy deep intimacy, expand your horizons, and have someone there to support. Unfortunately, for many, finding love can involve a painful cycle of falling in love, going through heartbreak, and falling in love again.
To break the cycle, it’s important to set boundaries and be able to walk away from those who don’t meet the standards we set. We also need to understand how our inner selves affect who we attract and our relationship behavior. This may mean taking breaks from relationships or even just spending more quality time with yourself. With this in mind, you’ll likely see your relationships will dramatically shift for the better.
Should you be looking for love right now?
Many people think that the person you’re in a relationship with is like a mirror of yourself. In the words of author Shakti Gawain, “The people we are in relationships with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors, reflecting their beliefs.” In other words, if you believe you deserve love and respect, you’ll be attracted to people who love and respect you.
Maybe you’re not confident that, with where you’re currently at on your journey, you’re ready to have someone reflect you. In this case, it’s more than okay to take a break from looking for love or being in a relationship. Take the time to reset your mind and energy, and get the space you need. Common reasons for wanting to take a break from romantic love include:
Feeling that romance would interfere with your current path
If you’ve recognized that you need to heal from trauma, low self esteem, or you have beliefs you want to challenge, you may want to work on this alone. Going through a journey of healing and self discovery can be intense, and many people choose to focus on this before getting a romantic partner.
Being in relationships due to external pressures
Many people feel like they need to be in a relationship because your family, friends, or society make them feel like they need to be. However, if you’re in a relationship because you feel pressured, you won’t be able to foster the intimacy that loving relationships are all about.
You haven’t moved on from a previous relationship
A relationship ending is a serious event, and can even be traumatic for many people. Never hesitate to take the time to fully heal from a breakup before moving forward with new relationships.
You just don’t want to be
If you can’t think of a good reason, but you just feel an urge to be alone, you can listen to your instincts. Your subconscious mind is likely telling you that you need to be single at this time in your life.
Of course, if you’re having the above feelings in a loving relationship and you don’t know what to do, don’t rush into breaking up. Make sure you communicate with your partner about what you’re feeling before making any decisions.
How to look inward to find love
If you’ve been single for a while, but feel ready to embark on the journey of finding love, congratulations! This is an exciting decision. If you’re ready to activate your romantic and passionate energy, I recommend the following three practices.
In today’s world, with all its constant distractions, being present is actually very difficult. However, everyone can benefit from being more present in the current moment. It is within this moment that we’re able to find true happiness and satisfaction.
Regularly engaging in mindful meditation is a great way to bring presence into your daily life. This gives you the opportunity to reflect on what you currently have, and feel more connected to yourself.
“Dating yourself” allows yourself to build a connection with your inner self. Think about what you would love to do on an amazing first date. Maybe it’s a trip to the art gallery, or a picnic on the beach. Take the time to do these activities alone, and put in the effort to make it really special.
By doing these things, you’ll feel more in touch with yourself and realize you’re an amazing person to be with. You’ll realize you don’t need someone else to build you up – you can do it yourself. When someone does come along, you won’t be looking for them to fill a void, and will be able to make better decisions about if they’re right for you.
Remember the Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction refers to the idea that whatever you focus on will be attracted into your life. Like attracts like: you receive the energy you put out into the world.
When it comes to love, this means that you need to embody the love you want to attract. Be generous with yourself (e.g. dating yourself), and with others. Embrace your sensuality and feel positive and grateful. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you see a pure love enter your life.
I love using my resources and skills to help my clients prepare themselves for finding the connection they deserve. If you’re looking for guidance on your journey of opening yourself for love, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me.